808s and Fierceness...

so in my ears now is nothing but beyonce and kanye. the albums I've been waiting for. i listen to both of them from beginning to end sometimes repeating songs 2 or more times lol. the beats are ridiculous on kanye's and nothing like you've ever heard from him or anyone else i would say. beyonce... well you know how i feel about her, she is fab, period.and the songs just bless me. kanye just goes on girls that pissed him off and you cant even be mad at him because the beat is so hott. i feel his grown man comin on too. lil wayne's appearance is hott as well. so i put on high heels and strut around belting out all of her tunes and noddin heavily to kanye's beats. i suggest you put these on your christmas list for sure.... enjoy.

no honking allowed.

ok. i just read a post about rude men in the club grabbin ass, and it reminded me about something else that gets me all worked up. So you are walking down the street, and you can be doing a number of things: you can be walking to work with a cup of coffee and headphones on, standing at the bus stop, or you can be simply strolling down the street about to enter into your favorite store. Then all of a sudden...BEEEP BEEEEP!! *blink*blink*-----what-the-fuck-. I cannot explain how much this pisses me off. After the initial shock that I suffer from the blaring sound, my mind begins to go... first of all, I was under the impression that you honk at a dog to get them to move out of the way or at a hooker to show her that you are interested in her "business" and i am neither so what am i supposed to do?? Bat my eyelids and run recklessly into the street to greet you!?? hell to the no, so what would you like to happen. Now it is one thing for you to honk in passing because the obvious message is "you're cute". That is just as bad, but your disrespect can be overlooked...i guess. But when you honk at me, then signal for me to engage in a conversation with you or give the impression that you want my number, i wish I had an AK to spell "fuck you" in the side of your vehicle. You don't even respect me enough to get out of the car to acknowledge me, why would I be interested in knowing that you exist? Then you all have the nerve to be offended!! What is happening in the world when you think this is ok? Ugh. it disgusts me and it says in 5 seconds the type of person you are. an idiot. period. So fellas, next time you are in your car and you see an attractive female that you are interested in, please consider getting out of your vehicle at least to get her attention instead of honking at her as if to warn her that you are about to hit her.

ps. i wish i had one of these "no honking" signs to whip out the next time the madness occurs.

baps r us

ok so i had the pleasure of attending the first annual Essence Young Women's Leadership Conference here in Washington, DC. Because I have been deprived of being around black people for a while, whenever I am surrounded by us, i get excited, lol. The convention center had tons of young, fab black women all dressed in fly suits, skirts and dresses with luxurious hair everywhere. There were a few panels all talking about being young,female, black and my fav: successful. We touched on topics such as entrepreneurship, personal finances (credit,debt, loans, mortgages) and or course our image in this country and around the world. Notable faces were Jeff Johnson, Angels and Vanessa Simmons and others you may not know my name, but have fab careers and doing big things... great event.

speaking of great events, last night i went to the VSB happy hour at the mahogany restaurant... it was a great time, shoutouts to verysmartbrothas.com for having the event. i am looking forward to the next time.

my president is black. yours is too.

sooo im back. had to get my life together, still haven't quite gotten there... still looking for a full-time job, yeah. say a prayer.

in other news. my president is black! i am a little late, so i can't make that big of a deal, but i feel it necessary to let it be known that there is an extra pep in my step and my nose is a lil higher in the air than it usually is. i am now reading all the hype and aftermath and I am loving it. On election night i was on U street with 2 of my girlfriends and I have never seen anything like it. There were roars after every state was announced, essp. after Pennsylvania and Virginia, then when the announcement flashed across the screen. I cannot explain to you the amount of excitement and happiness that flowed from my head to my toes. I was elated to say the least. A random white woman hugged me as well as this little fly Asian dude. The dj busted out Cameo's "Candy" and as all black people do in times of celebration, we began an intense session of the electric slide that only ended to hear whack ass mccain speak. in my head i was saying " why didn't he say this speech earlier in his campaign?" but i was also happy he didn't because people may have actually considered him... anyway the club turned into a church when President Elect Barack Obama took the stage. That man is wonderful, I swear. Everything he said rang clear for everyone around the world and I choked up when he began his story about the 106 year old woman and how as an african american and female in this country, she was able to vote, essp. because this was my first time voting...

*sidenote* did you all see them lines!! I was telling my friends about the thugs in line waiting to vote... it was wonderful! anyways...

after President Elect Barack Obama (i like saying that in case you can't tell) gave his profound speech, everyone poured into the streets to act like complete fools. It was all in good spirits though. I hate the sound of honking horns but it sounded so good that night! people were hanging out of car windows, slappin hands, wavin flags and signs, standing on the corner clapping and dancing. it was glorious.

now i only have one bone to pick with the obama-haters.... the people who continue to question whether or not he is black or whether this is really a win for african americans..*ahem* excuse the chicken about to arise... well it aint a loss for us got damnit! and how the hell are you arguing whether or not he is black?? have you seen the last 43 presidents?! i dont care if he is light skinned, purple or red, he represents power as another color other than WHITE. it really upsets me when black people want to discredit this election and it shows that the psychological slavery in this country has really taken a toll on the minds of many. first of all you should not need anyone to validate your being, so if you need a certain type of "black" to be satisfied, you are what we like to call ignorant and ass backwards. On the other hand you must also understand the power of his presence and what it says to the world. I believe this should be a time for everyone to reevaluate the power of "power" in the world, what "color" it has been and the effects it has had. Also look at the history or our country and its position in the world for the last 200+ years. After that, shut up and jump for joy and shout for the 44th President of the United States of America, Barack Obama and the First Family.

money does not equal class.

So have you seen The Real Housewives of Atlanta? If not, I suggest you take a peek. I knew this would be a mess and I was 100% correct. I watched a couple of episodes and just shook my head, but I had to blog about this particular episode I saw. Now the concept in general is ridiculous because the “housewives” they showcase are just ridiculous. Seriously; and if you know me, you know I am far from a hater. Let me describe to you these characters: “NeNe” who opens the show with “I don’t keep up with the Jones’, I AM the Jones’!” is a washed up hoodrat who lucked up with an old fool who spoils her. For as much money as she waves around, her weave looks like a dead animal. She is unrefined and insists on showcasing her breasts constantly. Clearly something is wrong with you when you buy a $7,000 custom tailored suit for your son to attend Clark Atlanta University….no comment, well I do have a few, lmao. There is nothing wrong with Clark Atlanta, but there is something wrong with you buying a custom suit for him to attend. Anyways…”DeShawn” is a more refined hoodrat, but damn if she aint DUMB. I was huffing and puffing at the screen when tried to put a charity gala together for her foundation and tried to raise 1 MILLION dollars. She invites over 500 people into her HOUSE for FREE and expected to raise; did I tell you? 1 MILLION dollars! -_- and had the nerve to be upset! Like she did not know why!! She is not that much of a socialite where people will just come to your house and drop that much cash!! Who do you think you are!! Ok. Ok let me calm down. It was very noble of her to want to raise lots of money for her foundation whose mission is to “expose inner city girls” to….”better things”. So why weren’t they there!? Of course it was a disaster and half the people in there looked like they had never even seen one thousand dollars, oh and she had stacks of the invitations at local stores….. So clearly she has MUCH to learn. A tragic case of an undeveloped BAP that needs to go to business school. Now the rest of them are not as bad, but crazy characters nonetheless. They are successful and have a lot of money, they have fun and do things that make sense. I still say that for the most part, all of them absolutely have NO CLASS. DOLLARS DO NOT EQUAL CLASS. WHEN WILL MY BLACK PEOPLE LEARN THIS? Your appearance, neighborhood, activities and other material things cannot give you CLASS AND FINESSE which is intangible! It really is embarrassing. Anyway I do get chuckles from the tacky white one who has aspirations to be a country singer and who is in awe at the black women. “He looks like O.J Simpson!” or “Black women age so nicely, I never know how old they are!” It really is sad because everyone thinks that handing black people money and showing them “a better life” will make everything perfect. I HIGHLY DISAGREE. Well I am done ranting about this, please watch the show and feel my pain.

BEYONCE IS THE BADDEST.period.

PLEASE WATCH THIS B4 READING. ok so after bouncing around to "Single Ladies" all day and witnessing my new favorite video.. .i came across my least favorite thing... BEYONCE HATE. just stop it! are you serious!?!? People said this song sounds like "get me bodied", ....umm and every other artist's shit sounds like their shit too! you know why!? because its their shit! get me bodied was a HIT to say the least so hell yes she made a similar song!, and im sorry if she is not inspired by crazy hood love stories or corny, whack scenarios, or money, cars and hos. this is something that ALOT of girls can relate to. essp, my fellow baps, and not even in relation to marriage, but commitment in general. people say she is showing too much skin??? because she has it! and she can be fit and look good without looking like she in desperate need of a steak! you try to hop on those 4+ inch stilettos and shimmy around like that without jiggling!!! she is FIERCE. people say her look hasnt changed!?? she went from rockin plastic, home made outfits with honey blonde dookey extensions on the cover of word up magazine to gracing the cover of all international magazines and rockin shit you and me cannot even begin to pronounce. they say she ripped this video off from somewhere... its called inspiration! and if you have heard any hip hop/ r& b music in the last hmm 20 YEARS, you know that sampling and re-doing is damn near essential and is viewed as creativity; to take something and make it your own. yes she is happy that she is married! yes she can sing and dance at the same time without sounding like she just ran a 1600 meter race! how DARE anyone compare her to BRITNEY SPEARS!? even though i loved britney's last album... dont u dare compare beyonce to some weak, washed up, blonde pyscho, crack ho. Beyonce CAN BE BAD without a set, without fancy costumes and whack ass props. she is an intelligent artist who relies on her TALENT to sell albums and not gimicks and a prayer.please re-visit "dangerously in love" and "bday" if you are still confused and play all EIGHT of them videos she put out AT ONCE. *woosah* and anyone who thinks differently is... a hater. and that....is sad. now excuse me while i go shimmy around my room in stilletos and a one piece.

mccain= hell no. barack=hell yes.

ok. so of course i love barack and have never liked mccain. BUT DAMN. he has really done it. besides his whack excuses for policies. the root of his being is what frustrates me. i felt this extreme dislike for "that one" after last night's debate, but really after obama's rally in indiana today. i literally was tearing up at the end of his speech because i really did not understand why the hell anyone would vote for mccain. i know barack is teased because of his great speaking abilities (i dont know why) but i think that is the number one quality a president should have. i see the president as someone who should connect with americans instantly. even if its on the television screen, i should feel like you are talking to me. mccains speech seems to be hmm, how do i say, FAKE?! and really i try not to be biased everytime i listen to him, but then i am completely hit in the face everytime he DOES NOT acknowledge "Senator Obama"; instead he talks to the moderator or refers to obama as "that one". HOW RUDE. In everything he says about education, the economy, health insurance etc, it seems as though he is completely out of tune with the majority of america. for instance, when he said that government should not be involved with healthcare and should not regulate it. HAS HE NOT BEEN TO THE HOOD!?does he not know triflin americans?! YES, people need to be forced to get their children healthcare!! it is sad but true. I recently saw an episode of Oprah where a family had the income but the mother shopped her ass off and had no insurance for her 4 children!!! At the root of it, mccain does not understand history. that's it. he does understand how events and periods in history have put people in places where they HAVE NOTHING BUT THE GOVERNMENT. history has tied the arms of so many people, AND NOW YOU DONT WANT WALK AWAY!? and if you asked his "maverick" ass, he would tell you otherwise, but really. if you own 7 houses and 13 cars, there is no way you can be in touch with normal americans. and people say "well, bball player have lots of houses and cars" -_-, they are not running FOR PRESIDENT!! no way. he does not understand the african american and other minority population AT ALL. i dont even think he has mentioned us in his entire campaign. he thinks the government should be removed from everything....then what is it there for!?!? why are you running for president!?? honestly. barack spoke so wonderfully today about everyday things mccain probably didnt even know existed. he wasnt even afraid to look around at the audience and acknowledge the different races and how we are all struggling right now. i am completely disgusted with mccain and really do not understand how people are voting for him. he is a no neck having, shriveled up, sick, senile, skeleton lookin, leather faced, out of touch, backwards excuse for a politician. he is so stuck on hurting obama, he cant even think straight. i am just WAITING for the n-bomb to drop. im waiting. barack spoke about the real american dream and american history and how the world sees us. he spoke about the ability for america to become a beacon again instead of talking about just winning this stupid war, and NO they are not one in the same. mccain seems like he is playing with little green army men around the world and just wants to jump on the couch hollering victory. barack seems to be connected to peoples lives and seems to actually give a shit about whats REALLY going on. i swear i do not know WHAT i am going to do if mccain is allowed into the white house. it will really say something about america. something i know to be true but pray everyday that it is not. please prove me wrong america.

"if ya like it, then you shoulda' put a ring on it!"

"don't be mad when you see that he want it".... ooohhh the excitement!!! BEYONCE'S ALBUM. if you know me, you know i am shaking in my pants. iv'e heard clips of " if i were a boy" and i was like ehh. but this one! "single ladies", i swear, me and beyonce are soul mates, she understands me lol. she speaks for me...because i can't sing. but anyways, everyone should download it and love it and think its fab, because i do..

ok. in an attempt to lose weight and because a few people have told me how great it is, i am picking up the activity of walking. yes. walking. im mad i didn't do it all summer, but theres still time before its unbearably cold. it does wonders for me. the air. the alone time= great. you should try it....

and the beat go...boom.

thats lil wayne 4 all u losers out there....so the soundtrack of the weekend was JEEZY AND T.I. i was jamming in nikitas car allll weekend. i suggest you download, buy or whatever.... ill share some of my favorite parts.....

• " bitch im amazin....eyes so low, i look like an asian"


• " my president is black, my lambo is blue..."


• "catch me in a black tee but im a business man, catch me at the kitchen table weighin out my business plan"


• "let the dollar circulate!"


• " they ask me what i do, i tell em' teachin for a livin...and i can show you how to make a mil right now"
  

now im not a huge jeezy fan, BUT he managed to make a cohesive, hillarious album about some real shit and still get in the usual including money,cars and hos.the beats were crazy and im glad he sees the recession and what it really means. hmmm maybe he should talk to mccain.

T.I= YUM. i havent really listened to the whole thing but that song "PORN STAR"?! WOW TI. WOW. let me bless you...

"hey, would you stay...could you play wit it wit ya tongue just a little...you such a sexy individual, physical and mental and if its sentimental shouldnt the rules bend a little. and let me start at the top, stop in the middle, use a popsicle make you shiver, giggle when it tickle, i can talk to you dirty if you like that,i finish once, hit a blunt, start right back. i know you told me you a good girl. but shawty yous a grown woman not a lil girl,.you can blame it on the patron or the champagne, but sometimes bein bad can be a good thing....." 0_0 WOW. and the beat is crazy...ooh i wonndaa!!

and common's new song "Universal Mind Control" with pharrell= craazzzyyy. ron brownz "Pop Champagne"- my fav.

no more clubbing...tear.

yeah. thats pretty much the conclusion I've come to. on friday night i went with my friend to LOVE. now if you've ever been to LOVE, you know that its a big shit show. i hadn't been in forever and i wish i kept it that way. it has much potential as it is nicely decorated, nice amenities like the pool tables, lighting, good music etc. but still, no more for me. the fact that i have to risk my life and my possessions finding parking and walking to the club then wait in that damn line is REDICULOUS. i can only go if its free and i dont have to wait. then ITS PACKED. i don't want to be touchin tiddies with another chick. then the guys.... WHACK. something is really wrong with me because ask anyone who knows me and they will tell you, im quick to buss a move when my song comes on, but i find myself being that girl in the club with her arms crossed with a mean mug on daring someone to touch me. i just cannot deal with the concept of a guy, who i have never seen in my LIFE coming up to me and placing his penis on ass and expecting me to grind and bounce and shake. nope. not gonna happen. that's gross. and its so weird because like i said, i like to get DOWN. but i cant do it anymore. it seems like these people missed out on the college parties where you got drunk and acted a fool and now they are trying to get it in. oh! and nelly was performing so you KNOW it was a mess. it was one thing for females to be scooting past me to see nelly but the DUDES!?? then commenting??? in reference to murphy lee i guess, or someone in nelly's entourage: "his dreads are fresh, i aint know he was that big"....-_-, if you don't get away from me.. i think i can only do an environment like that with a guy im interested in, that way i can dance, drink and not be bothered. that was friday night....

on saturday night i went to a lounge in bmore.... that was cool. i like lounge environments because 9 out 10 times, you can have space, sit down if you want to, dance, drink and enjoy yourself hassle-free. (and the lights are on and you can see me) lol. but yeah, i think thats the scene i will be frequenting more often... shout outs to megan, nikita, kendall and simone who i enjoyed my evening with!!!

my rants of the day

1. i swear i have heart and soul. lots of it. but today while walking down the sidewalk, i was digging around in my purse for my sunglasses and i look up and see this homeless man with his hand out begging, and i think "FUCK" because it looks like i am going to give him something, but im not! so i say "im sorry, i dont have anything" as i pass and he yells "YEAH, YOU GON BE SORRY!" 0_0 what!?? how rude! i have much respect for anyone and do not look down upon anyone and never will but DAMN! why it gotta be like that!?!? i was hurt for a second, then i got angry. why are there so many poor and homeless people?? i dont know who to blame, so ill blame everyone. i get so uncomfortable when i have to walk past them, but if i give them all my money( which i do not have), ill be right there with them!!! i don't even carry cash!! geez.

2. this one is for the fellas. why is it so hard for you all to make a girl happy? honestly. i have guys that call or text etc and want to "hang out" or something. then when we actually try to make plans its always "what you wanna do?" and when i say "i don't care" you all are stumped. YOU WANTED TO HANG OUT WITH ME. why is it hard to some up with something besides the movies or getting food??? because then it becomes "i don't have any money". SO FIND SOMETHING THAT IS FREE. be creative!!!

ok. thats it.

HOW TO GET A B.A.P PART II

In response to my post How to Get a B.A.P, my good friend Mike suggested I give an example of what an ideal B.A.S.P would look like. I can only speak for myself, but I imagine most B.A.Ps feel the same way. I have had plenty of time to ponder this question of my ideal guy. Please note that most baps have a point of reference whether they know it or not. sometimes its their father or uncle etc, sometimes its a rapper, i came to the conclusion that it is only natural to base it off of what i know, which in my case is my father. now lucky for me, he is a wonderful man to my mother, me and my sister along with the other women in his family. So that is my point of reference. so i guess that is the platform from which all else begins...

1. get to know me.

this means aside from my name, number, and profession. you should be interested in who i am at my base and where it all came from. where i grew up, my family life, childhood and important experiences are all crucial to who i am now. so if you dont know anything about my past, how will you know me presently and most importantly how can you be a part of my future?? some baps might have things they do not wish to disclose about their past and you must respect that and hopefully get to a place where she will lower that guard. so if information does not flow freely, do not feel discouraged.know the people in my life, know whats important to me. know my goals, dreams and aspirations. know what i believe. you cannot do this all by simply asking questions soo...

2. spend time together!!!

talking on the phone, emailing, texting, aiming etc is all fine and dandy, but at the end of the day, we need to spend time together. period. you need to see me, i need to see you. we need to laugh. you need to notice my mannerisms, i need to notice yours. i need to study your behavior and vice versa. no technology can be a substitute. my theory is at the end of the day, if all man made things were to fall away and dissappear, what would be left? me, you, the sky, water,trees and animals. and we would have no clothes on. lol. you might laugh, but tis' true!! so to me, these are the only important things. all other nonsense is unneccesary.

3. ACCEPT ALL

once you get to know me and we are spending time together...hate it or love it, take it or leave it. thats my motto. what you see is what you get. all that you have learned about me and even what you haven't is ME. so there is no picking and choosing what you like and do not like and what you would like to change. it does not work that way. you must accept all of me. head to toe, inside and out. my hair, makeup, clothes,activities, hobbies..all of it. just take it. this doesnt mean staying with me and complaining all the time. this means loving it unconditionally. my b.a.s.p should be someone i can bare all too and not have to worry about opinions. even if i show another side of myself to the world. i should be able to show you all sides. this is pretty much it but....

4. be yourself too

do not let "you" become "me". i know a lot of people say lets be one together...nope. i dont believe that.you should be a team and "together", but i believe this is a common missunderstanding that is a reason, esspecially in modern western civilization for so many divorces and so much drama surrounding "love". i do believe in this concept, however i think we have twisted it into some fairytale, whimsical dream so that when it does not happen the way we want it to...we are heartbroken, depressed, anxious, divorced, separated and the list goes on. man and woman were created obviously for one another, but we must acknowledge ourselves at the same time. you may have to sacrifice small things here and there, but your happiness should NEVER be compromised. you of course have to find out what really makes you happy, and that could take some time, but it is well worth the search. now, what does this have to do with getting a b.a.p?

in the year 2008, we have managed to complicate things beyond comprehension leaving both men and women grappling for answers. my solution is simple. ill be there for you and you be there for me. food.fun.shelter.communication.= the basics.( i really grasped this while watching man vs. wild on the discovery channel) everything else is for the birds. in my b.a.s.p, i need you to lead and also be leadable. see me as your equal and respect me. and as for the here and now where most people my age are not looking to get married right now neccesarily, THESE RULES STILL APPLY. they really apply to any relationship, friendship or otherwise, give and take. it is quite simple. balance. mathmatics. ying and yang. when all else fails and you get confused, break it down to the basics. you should care about my well being and naturally i will care about yours. so when i find this person, i will crown him my b.a.s.p.


now that the foundation is out of the way...there are a few superficial things that i attribute to the fact that i am a modern african american female in western civilization and a product of commericialism along with other histories.....LOL. in my b.a.s.p as far as SWAGGER goes.... (if you cant tell, thats my new fav word) my ideal would be the following...

1. now notice in the acronym b.a.s.p... the first word is BLACK. this is my preference, for reasons that would take about 10 posts to explain. i make this clear because there are b.a.ps that are shallow and discriminate in the black race....nope. not me. i like them ALL. yum. i am light bright but i love all shades of chocolate. really. there is some warmth that exudes from all shades of brown. even though we might be called black (another 10 post subject)....

2. STYLE: from head to toe. for some b.a.ps this may not be an issue, sorry. this is one of my guilty pleasures. to me it says you care about your appearance and are interested and aware of the current state of fashion.

• HAIR: whether you have dreads, an afro, curly bush, simple cut... KEEP A SHAPE UP.(or whatever you call it depending on where you are from) it is very sexy to see that sharp line outlining your cute face. this includes facial hair, which is also sexy. but if you don't like it, and don't have any that's cool too.
• SKIN: use lotion! even if its the 99 cent kind, slather it on!! we want to see that brown glisten! not lookin chalky!! vasoline! queen helene! cocoa butter! anything!
• NAILS: hmm just keep em clean. im not fond of guys getting manicures, but if that floats your boat.... so be it. now pedicures... i will make you an appointment when i make mine! because in the summer months if you plan on having them thangs hang out... keep them looking presentable!!! no polish necessary.
• LIPS: chapstick!! i use to think it was wierd for guys to whip out chapstick, that was until i reached kissing age! MOISTURIZE! i do not want to see skin hangin off of your mouth! i will run away. seriously. and licking your lips is sexy but saliva will not cut it. CHAPSTICK: the anti-crust. love it, embrace it!
• SCENT: extra credit!!! as long as you do not stink, we are cool. but i swear, i whip my head around to take a peak when i am in a public place and a man walks past me and i get a whiff of goodness. HALLELUJAH! or when i hug you and my nose is pleased. it really does it for me. this is definitely a way to rack up points. but do NOT get carried away, smellin like you bathed in sephora's mens section?....not cool.
• CLOTHES: i feel sorry for guys. i really do, and i have discussed this with my male friends. you all have it bad, because in order for you all to look "dapper", you all have to drop LOTS of cash, whereas we can get a $10 tee and keep it movin. BUT this is no excuse. your jeans, white tee (that fits you and stops just beneath your waste) is just fine. if you have it like that and can go all out with the outfits, thats fine too. sweaters, jackets, hoodies, all cool, just make sure it fits, it is clean, wrinkle free, does not expose ALL of your ass (because i personally like seeing the just the top of your boxers when you stretch :) but i like to see a belt too... ) briefs are wierd to me lol. and i hate when guys have their pants all the way down and i see their whole brief ass...eew. keep it clean fellas.pick up a magazine and take a peak, and "do you", it is something intriguing about the items a guy chooses to represent himself...
• SHOES: this is a weak spot of mine. i am trying to stop this but i cannot. i love when guys have on fly shoes. it really really does it for me. like i said, it sux because i know they are expensive, but they really help. i ALWAYS look at them when you approach. you might not see it and even if i do it when you are walking away, i always look. maybe its because i love shoes in general, i dont know. the only thing i HATE, are mens pointy dress shoes.... NO. those are for ME. stoppit! there is a plethora of fly sneakers around the world. cop a pair. to "snazz" it up, get your fresh tie ups and to really get fancy or go to work or church, please keep the loafers from looking like you are 80.
• ACCESSORIES: hmm. depends. a watch is nice, classic... earrinG, acceptable..... earrinGS, excessive...... fitted...YUM.....other hats...cool..... doo-rags....ONLY IN THE HOUSE..... belts, of course but please stay away from the tacky buckles. i do not need to see any public service announcements strobing above your crotch area...... bracelets, minimal.... neckwear,minimal......ties, yum BUT ONLY WHEN NECESSARY. there is no need for you to have on a tee shirt and a tie!!.........socks, yes we pay attn to them too. you cannot wear thick, white sports socks with your semi-dress or dress shoes.patterns are interesting......draws, aka underwear, keep em clean/hole free, that goes for your "wifebeater" too.... sunglasses....cool.
• OTHER: I LOVE TATTOOS.YUM.but some girls do not. to me its like artwork on your body, but i understand if you have a job that does not permit them. or they just aren't your thing.

3. your interests: you don't have to have specific interests...just have some! sports and rap will not cut it. books,travelling,experiences,stories,beliefs,opinions are all interesting. if you can tell me about something i don't know about, even better. don't bore me or talk about something you THINK i might be interested in. don't be condescending and spill out your education through blabber about what you have studied. instead infuse your knowledge and education into the conversation in other ways. if i wanted to be in class,i can go back to school, lol. and if you did not go to college, thats 100% fine, but the same rules apply. don't be afraid to share your opinions and stick to them. don't look down upon mine. again, be you.

these are the basics for my ideal prince. lmao. i crack myself up. i will probably post more...

my rants of the day

1. i do not like her. period. exclamation point. sarah palin and her "gee golly bobby" voice and that facial she does makes me want to blinkblink and shove her. this article sums it up perfectly, showing how she is a "pretty" politician who has won some of the shallow american public because she is used to being in the spotlight of beauty pageants. she crawled out from her rock in alaska to get some warm air and thinks that whack jokes and puns will get her into the white house. she drops the "g"s of her words, and thats about all she does to try and "relate". PTA?? HOCKEY??? are you kidding me??? i am seriously reconsidering my citizenship if this woman is remotely near ruling this country. "pray the gay away"? PALIN PLEASE. Take your hideous hair havin, whack suit wearin, backwoods bamma accent, funky facial idiot ass elsewhere and relieve me of ever seeing you again. *woosah*

2. my second rant is african americans in corporate america. i have had two recent convos with my friends who feel the same way, and it still gets me heated. now i have absorbed all i can take of the machine they call corporate america and have tortured myself with its ways for four years in college. but i quickly realized that i would be damned if some white man would tell me what i could wear, when i could wear it, how my hair could look, what i could do for fun etc. now, no he doesnt walk up and tell you, but it is implied that you are supposed to carry yourself and present yourself a certain way in order for you to be successful. everyone cannot be jay z or play basketball so it is the only way out for many of us, but DAMN! i cannot take it. but what REALLY gets me is how now young black professionals have adopted this attitude which we like to call BOUGIE. i absolutely HATE it. in "professional" environments black people are scared to look at each other for fear of..what??? please explain. what? you dont want them to know YOU ARE BLACK??lol people kill me. KILL ME. im not even talking about being ultra expressive of your race/culture/ethnicity etc, because there is a time and place for everything, but please believe that your interests are not important to them at the end of the day. PLEASE BELIEVE IT. So why you are going out of your way to knock down stereotypes and negative images, trust that they are making up new ones! it is a lose/lose situation, and i dont do this to be hopeless or depressing, i just say it to make you aware because in the end, you can work anywhere and do anything as long as you know who you are, but if you don't.....

3. sometimes i think i am an alien and it really ruffles my feathers when PEOPLE DO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE YOU. i am working as a receptionist right now and i see it as part of my duties to say "good morning" to all who pass me. this seems normal right? well i guess not!! because people whisp, yes whisp past without even turning their head to look at me. now i understand bad days or how you can have that "fuck it" in your system in the morning. i have it sometimes. well then you can still look, nod, smile or SUMTHIN. it literally seems like people go out of their way to NOT acknowledge you. i find this to be extremely rude and wish i had a button to make the person trip and fall flat on their face if after i say good morning and within the next 5 seconds, you do not answer. when i was in school on campus when people would be walking towards you and go out of their way to look at the sidewalk instead of acknowledging you. *sigh* maybe i am just bitter and ultra nice. w/ever. grrrr.

B.B Moment

so i have decided to post moments that my friends and i call "blinkblink" moments. these are moments when there are no words that will describe the hilarity,obscenity,irrationality,pettiness or frustration with a person, place,thing or situation. We all probably do the action but never think about it. It happens when you have a completely blank face and your eyelids close approx. 2x very slowly or rapidly depending on the mood, while your brain attempts to figure out "wtf!?" or "are you serious!?" "or please stop you are embarrassing yourself and others". I witness many of these moments so there will surely be more to come.

the blinkblink moment today will have to be the sad people who are such a hurry in life that when they are determined to not miss the train, they bolt past everyone, and upon hearing the metro say "DOORS CLOSING", they proceed to try and wedge their way in. As you are safely in the train or smartly standing on the platform, you watch them wiggle their way out of the situation they have put themselves in. Personally, I witnessed a larger woman in her "sneakersocksandtightsworkingwoman" look pinned perpendicularly in the train doors. The door hitting her cleavage and the crack of her ass. Usually these people are pinned in the doors or their bag or coat is stuck. at these times, there is nothing you can do or say but cross your arms and blinkblink. (followed by uncontrollable laughter in your head)

GUIDE TO GETTING A B.A.P: PART I

this is necessary due to recent experiences and conversations with other baps. There is a shortage of eligible male baps. yes. black american princes. excuse me, "basps", black american straight princes. i love my gay men, but you all can only do so much for me... lol. I have conversations incessantly with females and we all have the same problems. so i propose this guide. it is a step by step system to help basps connect with baps. the world will be a better place.



*NOTE* this guide is for the intelligent black, professional males out there aged 21-30. if you are over 30, its not that you are not eligible, but personally i feel that you should be on a different page than myself. also, my uncles are all over 30.... In addition to this, you will find that all the answers are not here. if you find yourself confused or unable to comprehend, you sir, are not ready for a b.a.p.



step 1: assess your swagger.


my definition of swagger may be different than yours so pay attn. there is no one way to have swagger. it comes in many forms. you do not have to imitate any particular hip hop moguls or throw unnecessary slang into your speech or even fluff your speech with big ass words to impress someone. swagger comes from within and will naturally come about when you are true to yourself. if you like rap music, you like rap. if you like reading Shakespeare, so be it. if you like both, even better. i guess i can only speak for myself but i am sure a bap wants someone that can bring her something she cannot bring herself or something that is different from the next guy. this means that you wearing tight true religion jeans and some fancy ed hardy tee with your draws slightly exposed may not be enough for you to pass the test and receive the digits, essp. if i have never seen you in my life. do some upgrading and diversifying of your swagger and sexiness before approaching a bap, or you will get your feelings hurt. don't try to be something you aren't. that's not cool. if you wear a shirt and tie to work, that's you, if you don't, that's you too.



questions to consider: do you stink? does your breath stink? how does she look? is she in a hurry? are you ALOT older than her? do you own a linen two piece? is she smiling when you say hello to her? are you too close for comfort? did she say she has a boyfriend? are you touching her? are you looking at her like she is a piece of meat?

parts of your swagger:
your appearance: hair,clothes,shoes,scent
your "look", ie: laid back, aggressive,thuggish,intellectual, stand offish
your interests: music,books,activities,travels,experiences
your speech, vocabulary, tone of voice: what words and phrases are you using?

step 2: the introduction


this is crucial to the whole process. part of diversifying and sexifying your swagger is "stepping up your vocab". the annoying "HOW U DOIN?" "WHAS YO NAME""AY, CAN I TALK TO YOU FOR A MINUTE" will get you a *blink*blink*, a click of the heels and an about face. an eye and or neck roll may be included. you must understand that just because you think she is cute, she just might not think the same about you. as a decent man, you must grow some balls, accept this and move on. think of this as the "elevator pitch" used in networking events. if you had one minute to express yourself to a potential employer, what would you say? Would you really say "Hiwhatsyournamecanigetyournumber?" HELL NO. So why would you do it to a girl you would like to get to know? Take your time, assess your swagger, assess the situation, then move in cautiously. Switch up the greeting, make an interesting comment or observation...sumthin!



step 3: the interaction and exchange


be confident, but don't get too fresh. give her some space. you approached her, now give her time to assess you. too much pressure is a HUGE turn off. in trying to get information you can detect whether or not she is interested. if she is giving you short and choppy answers, abort the operation! if she is smiling and actually engaging with you, then proceed with caution. here's a huge tip. If she mentions a boyfriend, BACK UP. I have had guys ask if I had a boyfriend, even if i didn't, i would say i did to get them to leave me alone. then they have the nerve to say "well can we be friends?" NO NO NO NO NO. If a girl wants to talk to you, she would not tell you she has a boyfriend!!!! DUH!! These are important signs. If all is well you have two options. 1. if this is a quick introduction on the street or in the club, and contact information is needed, then you can simply ASK how she would like to proceed. it is simple " should i give you my contact information or would you like to give me yours". it is 2008 people, a screen name, email etc will work if the digits are hard to come by. If you have plenty of time, or you know for sure you will see her again, wait to exchange information. it wont hurt and again, she will appreciate you wanting to contact her in more ways then calling and having breathing sessions, although a call is better than a text...

stay tuned for PART II. in the meanwhile, enjoy this comic relief and how NOT to approach a BAP.

Big Ups 2 Bill

i was watching meet the press yesterday and i was pleased with what bill clinton was saying so i thought i'd share. here is a snippet from the transcript:

PRES. CLINTON: The American--first of all, I wish we could have a cessation in the use of the word Africa for just 18 months while America learns that Africa is a continent that just in sub-Saharan Africa has 48 separate countries, and that it's not just the geography, it's the politics, the culture, the language, everything is different, and that yes, there's been bad news in Darfur, yes, there's been bad news out of Zimbabwe, but you have country after country after country with very high growth rates and remarkable progress. I mean, Rwanda, genocide in '94, 10 percent of the country dies in 90 days. Four years later, their per capita income still well under $300 a year, 10 years later, $1,000 a year. Nearly quadrupled their per capita income. That's the real Africa. That is far more representative of what the African people are doing and can do tomorrow than the other, and I really wish every time we talked about it--you should discuss it with your news people--whether we would mention a country. You might say, "Oh, by the way, it's in Africa," but we've got to stop thinking of Africa as a monolith.

Before he talked about his work in Africa, he was talking about how great Obama is, which of course made me happy. He did so in a very clear and honest way. He admitted he had just met Obama and is working on building a relationship with him. Unlike most politicians, Bill has a way of articulately communicating "real talk" instead of politickin mumbjo jumbo. Here's the link for the full transcript: Big ups to Bill.

UNCOUNTED

if you don't know already, there are sneaky people who will do anything to disenfranchise folks. here is a documentary that spills it all. it talks about how the 2004 elections were stolen right in front of our eyes and how possible it is that this election will be the same. minorities in particular are targeted and technology enables this mess to occur. go to the website to view the trailer and i think it comes on some cable channel too. another reason to VOTE.

from the website:

"UNCOUNTED is an explosive new documentary that shows how the election fraud that changed the outcome of the 2004 election led to even greater fraud in 2006 - and now looms as an unbridled threat to the outcome of the 2008 election. This controversial feature length film by Emmy award-winning director David Earnhardt examines in factual, logical, and yet startling terms how easy it is to change election outcomes and undermine election integrity across the U.S. Noted computer programmers, statisticians, journalists, and experienced election officials provide the irrefutable proof.UNCOUNTED shares well documented stories about the spine-chilling disregard for the right to vote in America. In Florida, computer programmer Clint Curtis is directed by his boss to create software that will “flip” votes from one candidate to another. In Utah, County Clerk Bruce Funk is locked out of his office for raising questions about security flaws in electronic voting machines. Californian Steve Heller gets convicted of a felony after he leaks secret documents detailing illegal activities committed by a major voting machine company. And Tennessee entrepreneur, Athan Gibbs, finds verifiable voting a hard sell in America and dies before his dream of honest elections can be realized. UNCOUNTED is a wake up call to all Americans. Beyond increasing the public’s awareness, the film inspires greater citizen involvement in fixing a broken electoral system. As we approach the decisive election of 2008, UNCOUNTED will change how you feel about the way votes are counted in America."

B.A.P Showcase: MICHELLE OBAMA

click the t-shirt to purchase. because she really does rock. call her what you want but this woman is one of the flyest black female public figures we have seen in a while that is not involved in the entertainment industry. people talk about her hair, her clothes, they say she looks funny....oh well. she is a WUHMUN, and something that little black girls can look up to. literally. Not only can i understand what she is saying, she actually has something to say and does so while exhibiting how to be a supportive spouse and a great mother. of course the media wants to tag her as an ABW. (angry black woman) but why wouldnt they? anything that threatens the status quo which happens to be blue-eyed, there is a problem all of a sudden. please do not be fooled. michelle is fly. period. love her embrace her and do what you need to do to make her the first lady. please enjoy this exhibit of greatness:

PS: OBAMA BLUE DAY IS TOMORROW! WEAR BLUE AND GET 2 PEOPLE REGISTERED TO VOTE!

LEGALLY BLACK: SEGS IN THE CITY

if you haven't already, you need to finagle a way to get on a segway, and do it fast. there's this cute little kiosk in dc called "segs in the city" and you can do an hour or 2 hour tour while zipping around on a segway. me and ashley did it and it was THE BEST THING EVER. call it loserish if you want, but dont knock it till you try it. We each paid $45 and there was no one else on the tour with us. So we followed our tour guide around lookin like the jetsons. We went all over the U.S Capitol grounds, the Library of Congress, the Newseum( which i must go to soon) and the Supreme Court buildings. We stopped here and there to hear tidbits of interesting info along the way.




While posing in front of the capitol, we had to remind the guide that we were not Elle from Legally Blonde, we just politely told him we were "Legally Black". *chuckles*. Well that was the highlight of my weekend, along with drinking lots of wine and being in a techno club with random bursts of smoke coming the ceiling and dancing with nikita and ashley. So if you are in town hit me up and i will be delighted to zip around the city with you. I believe they have locations out in maryland and philly too.

FOR COLORED GIRLS....

so i am not a huge fan of gospel music all the time, but this one struck a chord. I was at my cousins dance show at her Christian dance academy and they danced to this song called "More than a Conqueror". So I swooped up one of the little girls afterwards like the stalker I am and asked who sang it. His name is Mali Music and hes from GA. Maybe I am late and people have heard of it but this song does it for me. Please visit the myspace page and hear for yourself. I think it is number 4 on the playlist. I think what really got me was this 4 year old that was moving to it. it was DEEP. I had goosebumps!! it also reminded me how talented and gifted black women are, even the little ones! Speaking of gifted black women...



For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf by Ntozake Shange is BRILLIANT. If you have not read it, your womanhood is not complete. It was supposed to be at Broadway's Circle in the Square Theatre in New York City this fall but it has been postponed to Spring 2009, so watch out for it!! Now a little background...

This woman is powerful. She was born Paulette Williams and changed her name. Ntozake" means "She who comes with her own things" and "Shange" means "she who walks with lions" in Xhosa. (That is a tribe in South Africa, yes the one with clicks, those are my people.) Anyhoo, that't tight as hell. I would like to change my name too....


So the play is a "choreopoem" about seven different women: orange (that was me when i was in the play!!!), purple,yellow,green,red, brown, and blue. Through music, and vivid depictions of real life situations that all women of color have to face, she hits you over the head with genius poetry and timeless stories (it was written in 1975). The women discuss losing virginity, abusive men, dancing, singing, praising and the list goes on. Please read it. stimulate your mind. "and i loved her fiercely...."

OBAMA BLUE DAY: TUES. SEPT.30

here's the deal....

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

WEAR BLUE AND GET 2 PEOPLE REGISTERED TO VOTE.

it's that simple and everyone is doing it. if you don't, you will be a loser. Be it relatives, church members, people in the store, or that dude on the corner, get it done. oh! and apparently you CANNOT wear your fab obama paraphernalia on Nov.4 or you will get locked up. that sux.

BOHO CHIC! What's your "LOOK"?

i love "looks". It's a game i play in my head when i go shopping and when i get dressed everyday. I take a piece of clothing, shoes or jewelry or certain color and that will be my starting point. Then I turn it into some drawn out dramatic story in my head. Previous looks have been "struggling student" and "aqua goddess" just to name a couple. Now trust me, it was always fab! (haha)I did this for class or big events where i had to dress up lol. Then I get to embody whatever I look like. It's fun! trust me, you should try it. This is the name of my fall "look". I crack myself up. I am going for the earthy,warm ,bohemian chic look with a splash of glam. And a chick is broke soo we are doing this on a budget. So far I have found these cute little doodads: The purse is from target and the boots are from urbanoutfitters, the other stuff is from here and there and everywhere and grandmas jewelry box.

I'll be rocking the hippie headband look with feathered earrings and big ass colorful beaded and wooden jewelry, excessive fringes with unneccesary big hair. My own twist on the boho look. So if you see me and you laugh, oh well, you were warned. My colors will be deep jewel tones in magenta, royal blue, burnt orange and hunter green. Some olive and yellow and of course black. LMAO. This is the cheapest look I could come up with and still look fab. Oh goodness, is it fall already?? get your "LOOK" ready!!!

LOVE LOCKDOWN.

please click the above pic to hear one of my favorite songs of the year. it will bless you. We all heard it on the MTV awards when he performed it but I don't think you all were paying attention. some people put their noses up at it but i love it. kanye makes me shake my head at him sometimes but hey, u gotta respect the music. enjoy. can't wait for the album. speaking of albums BEYONCE IS COMIN OUT SOON, HAAAAAAAAAAAY!

BARACK OBAMA

OK. Because this is my new blog I must re-state my political position. I could give a two shits about politics because I aint never see nobody in the history book that looked like me. I did however always know how important politics were and how much power they had and because no one that looked like me was hardly in politics...we had no power. period. With this said, you, your mother and all those you associate with need to be registered to vote, verify your registration and of course VOTE on Tuesday, November 4, 2008. Yes I am a BARACK supporter and you should be too. I do not care what color, sex, political party you are, BARACK is the most human candidate we have ever had. I am exhausted with this campaign and the shenanigans mccain and palin have pulled and don't even feel like expressing my frustrations right now. All i can do is support BARACK, and ask you to do the same. Besides the fact that Michelle is the bomb and Sasha and Malia are adorable, I actually understand what comes out of Barack's mouth and feel what he is saying and it actually makes sense. Here's the info, so you can be an informed voter. ps: being an informed voter is sexy. Not being registered to vote and not being able to have a convo about politics is not sexy. step up your game, advance your swagger.

Current job: U.S. senator from Illinois

Birth date: August 4, 1961; Honolulu, Hawaii

Family: Married Michelle Robinson (1992-present);

Children: Sasha (2001) and Malia Ann (1999)
Religion: Christian
Education: Columbia University, B.A., 1983; Harvard University, J.D., 1991
Campaign Web site: http://www.barackobama.com/

1990s: Practiced civil rights law and taught constitutional law at the University of Chicago Law School.

1997-2005: Illinois state senator, representing the 13th District.

2000: Ran for a U.S. House seat but lost primary to former Black Panther Bobby Rush.

July 27, 2004: Delivered keynote address at the Democratic National Convention
November 2004: Won the U.S. Senate seat in Illinois, defeating Alan Keyes. It was the first time in history a Senate general election race was between two African-American candidates.

He is author of "Dreams From My Father: A Story of Race and Inheritance" (1995);

"The Audacity of Hope: Thoughts on Reclaiming the American Dream" (2006) and

"It Takes a Nation: How Strangers Became Family in the Wake of Hurricane Katrina" (2006).

Obama won a Grammy Award in 2006 for best spoken album for his reading of "Dreams From My Father."

In his 1995 autobiography, Obama confessed to experimenting with marijuana and cocaine as a teenager.

In 2006, he toured five African countries, including a visit to Nyangoma-Kogelo, Kenya, his late father's hometown. He was the first African American to be president of the Harvard Law Review.

Here is Barack's position on some important issues:

Abortion: Supports abortion rights.
Immigration: Supported Bush-backed immigration reform legislation, which would have increased funding and improved border security technology, improved enforcement of existing laws, and provided a legal path to citizenship for some illegal immigrants. Voted to authorize construction of a 700-mile fence along the U.S.-Mexican border.

Iraq: Opposed use of military force in Iraq. Voted for war spending bill that would have withdrawn most U.S. troops by March 2008. Supports phased redeployment of U.S. troops. Opposed Bush's plan to send additional troops to Iraq. Had once called for troop withdrawal to begin by the end of 2006.

Same-sex marriage: Opposes same-sex marriage, but also opposes a constitutional ban. Supports civil unions.

Social Security: Opposes Bush plan allowing workers to divert some Social Security payroll taxes into private retirement accounts.

Taxes: Opposed extending 2003 Bush tax cut law through 2010. Supports eliminating marriage penalty and extending child tax credit. Supports scaling back capital gains and dividends tax cuts and re-examining tax benefits for the top one percent of earners.

(all info from cnn.com)

I have heard all of the drama surrounding Barack and I will not have it. So on this page you will see nothing but support. With that said, go get some fly Barack gear and BARACK THE VOTE.

*click the pics to go shopping*

vera wang tee:

tracy reese tee:

juicy couture tee:
marc jacobs tote:

diane von furstenburg tote:check the stats tee:

barackthevote.com tee #1

barackthevote tee#2

ok thats good for now, ill post more later.

The Current Situation

HIIII!!! Ok so I deleted my other blog because I was tired of it and I wasn't keeping up with it and I didnt tell anyone about it, so no one saw it.lol. But I promise promise promise I will try to keep up with this one. The other one did have some good stuff about my trips etc, but oh well. This will be an outpouring of life and thoughts post-college. For those who know me, this will be comic relief and a play by play of my life. For those who are just meeting me... mwhahahahaaa, Welcome to my world! You will find this to be a fascinating modge podge of the world at large through my crazy eyes embellished with outlandish doo dads and thingamahjigs. I have something to say about EVERYTHING from politics and poverty to those itty bitty moments in life no one pays attention to. You will come to realize my favorite topics are Black People and Women and the fabulous things in life. Try to keep up with my random slang concoctions, open your mind and enjoy the ride! Here's a QuickGuide:

lifeplan,n: the blueprint recently concocted and my claim to fame. It is a plan I will follow to make all my dreams come true.

ashley, n: the bff, and person i have most of my covos with

2bit,adj.: words to describe senseless people, places and things. originated from grandma.

those are just a few of the re-occuring phrases you will see. Also, I tend to have a potty-mouth so please know this is not for children.

Alright, now that the intro is done lets begin. As I said, college is over. I have a BACHELAS duhgree to prove it and I graduated "THANK YA LAUDE" at the top of my class. Babson is #1 in the WORLD for entrepreneurship and it is located in Wellesley, MASSAchussetts (google it) and it was a crazy experience to say the least, but hopefully we will be putting those business plan skillz into use in the near future. Before that happens, bills need to be paid so we are currently searching for yes, you guessed it... A JOB. When I went to school you could not tell me I would not be dressed in a fly pin striped, double breasted power suit and a briefcase trotting to work and looking busy all the time for no damn reason, however after 4 years of seeing the reality of the machine we call "corporate america", you cannot and will not pay me to do such a thing. Success is still the name of my game, but obviously I need to get there another way. For now we will continue our search and will stay with grandma lol. More on that to come...